Constant Introspection

When you are in a loving committed relationship sometimes you drive each other crazy. It is a union between two individuals who may or may not blend well together. For my wife and I we are both very strong willed and at times very stubborn. It’s good when we are in unison because we got each other’s back. However, whenever we are at odds it is a complete stand still. Granted not that I’ve ever won an argument. I don’t think there’s a man alive that can beat a woman in an argument. Emotion over logic seems to be the winning formula. Moreover, I am much more likely to cave in an argument after a long bout of being stubborn. Even though arguing with my wife is futile I keep on arguing until the fat lady sings. Due to the fact, that I honestly feel that I’m in the right.

I wish my wife would go for quick knockouts when we are arguing. The reason being the longer the fight the more I start thinking maybe I’m wrong in the situation. Ugggghhhh. Now I have to apologize. The apology process is terrible. Trust me the apology is way worse than the fight.

The apology entails my wife berating me. First with “What took you so long to apologize?” Then ” Why do I have to explain A to Z before you see the error in your ways?” With that in mind, there is definitely a double standard in our relationship. Because when she is wrong she won’t apologize right away. She will wait a few days after the argument with ” Hey babe sorry I was wrong, I just wanted to admit that”. Of course I’m no longer mad and I forgive her right away. I tried her strategy once on her but it blew up in my face. All I accomplished is the silent treatment. According to her me not apologizing right away is a sign I don’t respect her. Gosh what a can of worms I opened.

Hence, I have to go above and beyond in my apology just to have a chance of getting out alive. I decided to use my humor. No matter what, I can always rely on my humor to get her heart to melt for me. Even when she is about to blow a gasket. My apology also involves buying her a gift. Not the typical flowers and candy. I make sure I get something she really needs and present it to her in a sentimental way. Since I’m usually not very romantic the sentimental approach is very effective.

Yes you guessed it after the sentimental comes the make up. Sweet, tender, magnetic don’t do describing the make up justice. After stubborn senseless arguing the make up is the relief we both need. We communicate with each other more effectively and actually work together as a team. As with all good things it eventually does end and all of a sudden the whole cycle restarts. Ugggggghhh!!!!!

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